I have never in my life been known as an organized person. Ask anyone who ever saw my college dorm. My poor roommate (sorry Dalt). I’m used to spontaneity. “Fuck it” is my catch phrase. I never plan anything, ever. But now I’m beginning to understand how a little bit of planning can change an entire day.
Physically, I’m still a mess. That’s the next step. What I have changed, though, is how I go into each new day. Each night I make sure all my notes from the workday are completed so they don’t pile up at the end of the week. That’s a difficult task for a veteran procrastinator, but it’s nice to have some relief on Fridays. I also have set times to practice coping skills, whether I need to use them at those times or not. Taking a deep breath during lunch really can’t hurt, and practicing will help me to use these techniques when they’re going to make a difference. I have a daily schedule, with reminders on my phone so I don’t get off task. What this has done for me is eliminate some of the unknowns. I don’t have to decide what to do at 3:00, because it’s already been planned. I’ve been using my time more efficiently, so I have more time to devote to self-care. It also helps me identify times and specific situations where I consistently have issues.
My physical space is certainly much cleaner than it once was, and my backpack for work is immaculate. There’s not a paper out of place, and I can always find the things I need. It’s incredible. At home I have a specific space where I go if I’m feeling down. It felt weird at first, almost like I was punishing myself. But after a few days, I see it differently. I can tell myself that, okay, I’m leaving the area and the feeling has to stay here. It seems a little ridiculous perhaps. Trust me though, everybody should do this. Couples, give this a shot. Find your argument corner, and leave all your problems there.
I hope I can find more ways to structure my time and my space. It’s amazing what a few small changes can do. I think I’m on my way to a much better me. A more joyful, more productive, more resilient version of me.